Losing someone, no matter how it happens, hurts. We experience grief in a breakup from our lover, a fallout with our friends or even becoming distant from our family. Grief isn’t just about death.
“No matter who you are, or what your story is, pain, feelings, thoughts – they are all a part of being human.”
Writing here and now, I know that the world didn’t exclude me – and that my feelings of not belonging were unfounded. I now know that this was just a bunch of lies, festering in my mind because of a problem I had, and which I could not recognize as lies. A bunch of lies created by anorexia.
The honest truth is that at any point, we can make a change. We can start fresh and follow a new path. It’s all down to you. If we fall flat on our feel, we also have the option to stand up and try again, or turn back – neither have to be the wrong option.
Don’t get me wrong, I love Christmas and I might as well be Santa. But I feel like I spend my whole year preparing for my upcoming Christmas calorie intake.
I don’t like the term ‘holiday blues’ as that makes it sound less valid, because mental illness is more than feeling ‘blue’ and it doesn’t just turn up for the holiday, sadly for many of us, it takes years or a lifetime to manage that black dog. But I do believe that the festive season can make you feel worse, mentally speaking.
What people are saying when a person “commits” suicide, is reinforcing that they are criminals or perhaps something else judgemental.
But there is no crime in suicide and the only judgment should be as to why the person was left to feel that their life needed to end.
Why is the crime caused by the victim and not the events that led to their demise? Is this another way for society to victim blame?
We know that we will face setbacks with our mental health. Bad days, bad weeks, meltdowns, major episodes…they’re almost inevitable.
We know that our mental illnesses will change over time, as we ourselves and our circumstances change.