Something that people seem to be searching more today is “How to get more followers” or “How to get more likes”.
It feels like this concept of social media has taken over our priorities.
And it makes sense, after all, my generation has pretty much been witness to the birth of the online world.
To be fair, we did have the blessing of being able to grab just a glimpse of the before of all of this social media hussle, but ultimately, the internet has become a way of life.
The Internet is tied into our culture, from our social lives, to work, and education.
It’s almost impossible in the ‘current society’ to really live offline, because it feels like the world is very much enveloped into our Wi-Fi.
If anything, I owe so much to social media. But, there is a dark side.
Social media is a double-edged sword.
As humans, many of us are programmed to search for and find approval.
Maybe though, that’s just me, I suppose the most part of my life has been trying to feel welcomed by society.
We all want to fit in and be accepted. Isn’t that all humanity is, being part of something? (Though, I’d still rather not have to deal with people daily).
And social media, well, that only adds the pressure on us.
Suddenly, we can see how the other half live, we realize there is a whole new level of what we could and possibly feel we should be.
We are pushed into this world where it is impossible not to compare ourselves to others.
Everything feels like a competition. It feels like more than ever, we have to prove ourselves not just to our family, friends and colleagues, but to random strangers halfway across the globe.
In the blogger community, for example, there is a pressure that success is measured by the number of monthly views and followers you have.
If a blog article doesn’t do so well, it can feel like the equivalent of an ‘F’ on an exam.
It’s almost like the talent of a person is completely overlooked because they have not been discovered.
Skill is not taken into consideration for those who are still finding their feet.
Let’s be real, being discovered nowadays isn’t easy, going viral is rare. And being popular does not always equal skill.
It often means that those who have access to quick exposure are welcomed a lot more than those who are equally, or more, talented but are starting with less.
And we all know that people can buy their worth on the internet nowadays.
The world has got its values all jumbled.
But maybe it’s always been this way, the internet has just made it more obvious.
When did the number of followers equal our worth?
I remember when I started this blog. I had so many days where I would worry I was boring or just terrible at what I was doing because I barely had a few visits a month.
Given I had the disadvantage of dyslexia and hadn’t written since I finished school 7 years ago.
But over time, skill grows and the more effort and passion you give, generally, you will start to become more ‘skilled’ in whatever your chosen path is.
Even now, I’ve been going over a year on this blog and seeing others more successful than me who have younger blogs, I wonder what I am doing wrong. Am I talentless? Should I give up?
I am well aware that a lot of this is insecurity from my past, putting me right back into my school years where I would hide and cry in the toilets because I just didn’t fit in, and I was so passive that I was an easy target.
Maybe, this feeling is nothing but still wanting to prove myself to those same people that put me down, and maybe I just relate every negative experience with a person, to my past. Maybe, we all do this on a level.
On Instagram, we see so many people developing worsened mental health because these unrealistic photos are creating a normality that’s impossible to achieve.
I believe deep down, we see the attention others are getting and we want that.
On Facebook, when people don’t want to be your friend online, even when you aren’t close with them in real life, it may make you worry you’re unliked or that they don’t like you.
Seeing your feed filling up with moments that don’t include you can make you feel unwanted. Especially if these moments were from someone that constantly tells you they are busy.
Social Media has become a game.
We see I every day on YouTube with people fighting to become the most popular and the most-watched.
Some will do literally anything to achieve the response they dream of.
But how much of these followers and views are real?
How many of these influencers are genuine?
How do you know the person behind the account is who they say you are.
I think even the most genuine among us are likely hiding something.
We are idolizing complete strangers.
The truth is that the only approval you have ever needed is from yourself.
You are not better or worse for your online following.
You should never compare yourself to anyone, especially those you’ve never met.
Be true to yourself always and remember that you are not defined by others; opinions are judgments.
Just be yourself and your own, personal, success will follow.