Goodbye 2018, Hello 2019.
It’s that time of year again, the end. Where we reflect on how on earth we survived the last 365 days and in celebration make resolutions as to how to make next year a better one.
I’ve never been very good at resolutions. I am exactly the person who could write a list with good intentions but always gives up; like going on a diet. I just don’t have the determination.
Basically, the whole idea of “New Year, New Me” just doesn’t work for me.
Like, let’s be honest, how much do you really stick to resolutions. Have you ever completed one? I haven’t.
Then there is a whole other side. Why on earth do we wait for a certain day to decide to make changes?
And why do we brand ourselves failures for not sticking to this ‘to do list’. Why do we forget that life is unpredictable and sometimes things just don’t work out?
Why do we limit ourselves and attach deadlines to improve ourselves?
The honest truth is that at any point, we can make a change. We can start fresh and follow a new path. It’s all down to you.
If we fall flat on our feet, we also have the option to stand up and try again, or turn back – neither have to be the wrong option.
What’s more is that many people have this idea that they have to make resolutions. That they have to make changes.
Why do we put this pressure on ourselves? Why do we set goals that in truth, we know we won’t keep and don’t intend to?
Huns, you do not need to do anything you don’t want. If you are happy with who you are, that’s great; you’re perfect regardless. Whoever says otherwise is not worth a second more of your time.
You don’t need to be anyone other than yourself, repeat that to yourself until you believe it.
Basically, I’m saying that the whole notion of ‘resolutions’ and ‘New Years’ is a load of bull.
It does not help us, it’s another stress to add to our already chaotic lives and way to make ourselves feel worse about who we are. Do we always have to compare our lives to others?
There is pushing ourselves to be better and then pushing ourselves to be better for others. We need to stay true to ourselves and our limits.
Can we not just deal with things as they come, if you want to eat healthy today, do it, but if you decide that it’s not working out, that should be okay too.
Then there is the part that shows that any progress is better than none, so you didn’t quit smoking? ok but if you smoke one less fag a day, that’s a good change.
So, I say this. Scrap the New Year Resolution list. If you want to make a change, do it right now, there is nothing stopping you.
Go out there and own it, you got this! But if you’d rather stay in bed, then try tomorrow, or the next day.
Honestly, if it’s not in your heart, it may never be, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t grow as a person in other ways.
You’re pretty great how you are, so embrace it and only ever make changes to the things that make YOU unhappy.
Last of all, a very Happy New Year to all of my readers, I love you and hope that 2019 brings your opportunity and life.
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